Posted by: eliseanne | November 6, 2009

Sexism. Reigns.

Lots to say on that topic right now. I dont have all of the words to appropriately convey the things I am feeling and thinking, yet. Because I want you to understand what I am trying to say, not just brush it off or fire back without truly, vulnerably, hearing me.

Something is terribly, terribly wrong with our society. [ok, many many things. but i am staying strictly on topic here]. While there may be outliers to much of what I am about to say, know that there are gynormous, unignorable trends in our society that are very, very very, wrong. And yet, somehow, everyone seems to think they are ok. Or at the least, expected and unavoidable  or natural. That is a lie from the pit of hell.

Women are raped, gang raped, beaten, sexually assaulted, groped, slapped, pinched, controlled, bought and sold every single day. All the time.

Women get sexual flirtations, come ons, hollers, comments, critiques, expectations, requests every single day. All the time.

Women get cat calls, dog whistles, learing eyes, car honks, hand gestures, body gestures, mouth gestures, every single day. All the time.

And women are blamed for these things every single day. All the time.
Their character is blamed, their clothing, their past actions, their jobs, their makeup, their hair, their zip code, their race, their body shapes, all are blamed.
The victim was drinking heavily before…Or, She was wearing those booty shorts, Or, well she learned her lesson.

And men are excused for doing these things every single day. All the time.
Their character is puffed up for an excuse, their clothing, their past actions, their jobs, their hygiene, their hair, their zip code, their race, all are used as excuses.
Their role in society, their supposed role in the Bible, are all excuses. But honey, he’s a man, he has needs. Or Just ignore him, dear, he doesn’t understand. Or, He is a strong citizen and leader in the community, he wouldn’t do that.

Of course he has a right to do/say that to her. Of course he never would do/say that to her.
Of course she deserves what he did/said. Of course she wanted it. And of course she has to take it.
Because there is no other way.

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Responses

  1. Heck.

    Even if men weren’t excused for it all, every day.

    Doesn’t the sheer statements of what happens to women all the time, every day, say loudly enough that SOMETHING IS WRONG?!

  2. I was actually thinking of this today. I was remembering a commentary on the movie Transformers. The comentator said, “of course young boys will like this movie, it has huge explosions, giant robots, and the exposed midrift of ____ “(fill in actress’ name that I don’t remember).

    And then I got to thinking about so many movies where there is a violent scene where the main women is involved and she emerges victorious but not before her cloths are stratigecially shredded. Adding sex appeal by making her look more sexy and desireable apparently. But this just adds to the notion that violence against women is/can be sexually appealing!

    I used to think calling this a Rape Culture might be a bit extreeme, but no, we do have a culture that literally trains up its male citizens for violent sexual attacks against its female citizens!

    Rage on Elise, I am following right behind you! WHEN WILL IT END!!!

  3. I wrote on this a while back. Seems like the culture of ‘blame the victim’ is entirely anti-Christian, adopting a non-Jesus understanding of sin and temptation.


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